This is a really good admonition, and one I could stand to read a couple times.
You’re so right- social media- especially Instagram- is RIFE with polarity accounts describing in romanticized, intangible, mystical language the ideal dynamic between men and women, holding up examples like Jane Fraser from Outlander and Aragorn from Lord of the Rings as the ideal man- the type of man you’ll get if you learn how to be better at being a woman.
It puts a LOT of pressure on both parties- when a woman getting what she wants from her husband, she’s resentful toward him for not suddenly embodying this ideal AND at herself for clearly failing to be good at being a woman...because if she was good at it, she’d be getting what she wanted!
The polarity stuff can get feministic in a hurry. It can subtly suggest that if a woman is acting in a less than ideal way, it’s the man’s fault for not leading well enough. Lots of issues can arise from buying into that stream of thought.
So how would you correctly describe the interplay of masculinity/femininity?
Is there encouragement for a godly woman who wants to bring out the best in her husbands for both of their sake’s? Does embodying her femininity more fully have any effect/influence/role?
Yes, men do this too in a variety of ways. One way that can manifest is in a man looking for the “perfect virgin trad wife”. Essentially if a woman has even one red flag they move on and as a result end up perpetually single
This is a really good admonition, and one I could stand to read a couple times.
You’re so right- social media- especially Instagram- is RIFE with polarity accounts describing in romanticized, intangible, mystical language the ideal dynamic between men and women, holding up examples like Jane Fraser from Outlander and Aragorn from Lord of the Rings as the ideal man- the type of man you’ll get if you learn how to be better at being a woman.
It puts a LOT of pressure on both parties- when a woman getting what she wants from her husband, she’s resentful toward him for not suddenly embodying this ideal AND at herself for clearly failing to be good at being a woman...because if she was good at it, she’d be getting what she wanted!
The polarity stuff can get feministic in a hurry. It can subtly suggest that if a woman is acting in a less than ideal way, it’s the man’s fault for not leading well enough. Lots of issues can arise from buying into that stream of thought.
So how would you correctly describe the interplay of masculinity/femininity?
Is there encouragement for a godly woman who wants to bring out the best in her husbands for both of their sake’s? Does embodying her femininity more fully have any effect/influence/role?
*Jamie
love it and really puts my recent thoughts into words ✨
Great to hear
is there a Female version of this? For Men over romanticizing about the feminine?
Yes, men do this too in a variety of ways. One way that can manifest is in a man looking for the “perfect virgin trad wife”. Essentially if a woman has even one red flag they move on and as a result end up perpetually single