Yes, the modern dating market is tough.
Yes, there are real challenges today that previous generations did not face.
I grant you that.
But past that, too many young men are tripping when it comes to the topic of finding a wife-material woman. It’s endless doom and gloom. Victim mindsets masquerading as some kind of higher knowledge that other men just “don’t get.”
Some of these guys are literally lecturing married men about how there are no good women left. The irony seems to go over their heads.
Real Problems, No Question
Like I said, there are real challenges out there.
Swipe-based dating apps have made us treat each other like commodities, not people. Girls are being raised without strong fathers and swept into a culture dead set on making them hate their femininity and chase a radical, angry form of feminism.
The beliefs young women are inheriting about men, their own nature, and their sexuality are toxic. Many are hurting themselves by sleeping around, treating sex like it’s casual and disposable. Women like this will struggle as wives and mothers, because marriage and motherhood require a level of selflessness they’ve never been taught.
But Let’s Turn the Mirror Around
Young men today often have no idea what it means to be a man.
Many are addicted to porn and masturbation.
So while they complain about the lack of virgin trad wives, they’re actively destroying their own hearts and minds through secret degeneracy.
They rage at women for being promiscuous, while behaving the same way themselves. They romanticize previous generations of women while ignoring that they themselves are nothing like the men of previous generations either.
At the core, they’re obsessed with calling out what’s wrong with women, but they’ve made themselves victims. The reason life isn’t working out for them is simple: “Women bad.”
Which is, ironically, the least masculine argument one could possibly make.
Masculine Response vs. Victim Rant
Spending all your time focused on what women should be doing while failing to behave like a man should makes no sense.
When a man faces a problem in any other area of life, when is whining, complaining, and obsessing ever the winning formula?
Think about the hardship and adversity that men before us have faced.
Now fast-forward to today: men in their 20s, 30s, and 40s crying online about how horrible modern women are.
Alright bro, we get it. But here’s the real question:
What Are You Going to Do About It?
If you’re serious about becoming a husband and father, you don’t need 100 perfect women, you need one.
Just one woman to build a life with.
And the good news?
There are plenty of women waking up to the lies of feminism and actively seeking a man who wants to live a more traditional life.
If you’re a man of faith and conviction—if you’re pursuing growth—you already stand out in this age of fallen men.
Maybe you’re right about every cultural critique you can name.
But is your fixation serving you?
Or is it just fueling bitterness, resentment, and despair?
The Battle Is Internal
Being aware of the problems is only half the battle.
What you do in the face of them is where your personal power lies. That’s what should occupy the bulk of your attention.
Not what’s wrong with the world.
But how you’re going to show up in the face of it.
Standards and Grace
Yes, have a standard. But pair it with grace.
Too many men hold women to standards they don’t hold themselves to.
And remember… she’s going to have to overlook your flaws and failures too, brother.
Marriage is a path of redemption. Of healing. Of becoming fully human, together.
Where you start matters less than where you’re headed.
So Which Way, Western Man?
Is it so over?
Or are we so back?
I guess you’re going to have to decide.
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