When a husband is passive in his marriage for any length of time, it opens the door to a whole host of problems. Passivity corrodes trust, it chips away at respect and it undermines romance. A chronically passive husband shows up in a half-assed, half-hearted, half-present manner; he is both there but not there at the same time.
This passivity creates rigidity and tension for the wife. She begins to learn slowly over time that she cannot count on him to be there in the way that he should be. So she begins to internalize things and finds herself increasingly overburdened. Rather than being a grounding and stabilizing force in her life, the husband just drowns in her emotions with her. He has been vacant in the relationship for so long, that stepping back into the driver seat feels foreign and strange to everyone.
How can the problem of the passive husband be solved, and how can proper masculine/feminine polarity be restored after prolonged periods of time where the roles have been reversed? Let’s explore that.